The 5 Compass Questions that help you make Great Relationship Decisions.
What is a Compass Question? It is a question that points you in the direction of what really Matters.
When we are upset, sad, lost in a story, sometimes we forget what really matters.
It is like holding an actual compass. Even if you are deep in the woods, and spun around, at a complete loss for direction, you pull out a compass and it points to home. If you follow your compass it will lead you home.
When I was miserable and lost and had thought I tried everything to reconnect with my 13 year old daughter; I found a question that I have now asked myself hundreds of times.
What would Love do?
When I first found the question, I sent it to my daughters mother (we stopped living together when my daughter was 3) I thought it would FIX her. It is funny now (LOL) back then I wanted the world to behave in a certain way so I could be happy.
I eventually asked the question for myself many times. A common answer for me…Love wouldn’t do that…some petty thing I wanted to do that felt good in the moment…
Loves Answer…yes, Love answered…Love would love and if you behave poorly or sorely Love will still love you. (meaning me) It was quite nice to hear that I would be loved even when I was petty.
When you want to use harsh words or send the angry email…ask the question; What would Love do?
Are You Connecting or Disconnecting?
When we are connected people want to help us. They want to do what we ask? Ask yourself the question. Get in their shoes and listen to the answer. When you were yelled at as a kid or adult; you might have complied, but you didn’t want to and you might have actively sabotaged or….
Am I listening with the willingness to be changed?
If you can get to the point where not attached to being right you can deeply listen. Just ask yourself this question when you are battling answers from some one else.
I want to be listen to and heard. Do you? I know you do. Listen in this way instead of playing at listening and in reality demonstrating dueling monologues.
How Goooooooood does it feel when you are really heard?
What do I really need to defend?
I still defend. It is in my past programming. I am currently reprogramming and letting this go. When you get in touch with the deeper place that is truly you; you will find there is nothing to defend. I take people their regularly.
Is it True?
Beautiful question! So much of what we believe isn’t true. Can you look back at your childhood beliefs and see how many of them were false?
Is there any GOOD reason not to Fully love yourself? (Just sit with this please)
Find your own answer.
I will share the true answer….Love yourself Always…act from this place and anyone you have “wronged” will benefit from this love. Be your own best ally.
A Miracle making question…from the Course in Miracles:
It is either love or a call for love?
When someone is yelling at you it is a call for love. This is much easier to see with innocent baby…screaming and crying. Are they calling you horrible names? They want your love. You can become a miracle maker in your life and others when you practice this question.
Be patient with your self, and practice.
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Lots and Lots of Love
Chris
